Online Dating is a WASTE of TIME for young guys | The Dark Side

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In this episode, we are going to discuss why online dating is a wasteland & waste of time for young guys. As a young man, online dating can be very dangerous and detrimental to your development in a plethora of ways. To combat the obstacles you will face while dating online, young guys must become aware of what they are going to face out on the dating market as well as the dangers, traps, and pitfalls of the modern dating climate. Tune in to episode 72 of The Karat Juice Podcast where we dive deeper into the danger and pitfalls of online dating for young guys for the culture.    

What say you? Is online dating a waste of time for young guys? Do you think that online dating is a wasteland and pointless? Have you struggled with dating and looking for solutions on how to get the outcomes that you want. If that is the position you find or have found yourself in, this episode should help you gain a deeper level of understanding on the dark side of online dating.  

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Listen Up. In this episode, I have something to say about happiness, it’s relevance on the culture & on the pursuit of it on the majority of people in society. Does the ’pursuit of happiness’ affect the decisions you make? Do you think it’s something that happens to you or is it something you have control over? Let’s talk about it in the latest installment of The Karat Juice Podcast.

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Montay Lee 2:31
Welcome to the Karat Juice Podcast here at the Karat Juice Podcast, we observe society, we digest it. And through the nuance of it all, we attempt to progress forward. I am your host, welcome. My name is Montay Lee, and in this episode, it is my intention to give you some perspective to give you some insight into

happiness, and what it actually means.

And what

I think gets misconstrued by too many people

around what it really truly means to be happy.

I don’t want to waste your time. So I’m gonna do a little housekeeping before we really get into the nitty gritty of it. Okay.

And the first things first, for my audio listeners, I appreciate you really rock with anybody who’s rocking with the podcast.

And if you could do me a favor, please help me out. It really helped me out if you just share, rate and review the podcast on Apple podcast on Spotify anywhere you listen to podcasts, it really helps on Apple five star five star five star as well YouTube stuff. If you enjoy this content, and only if you enjoy this content, please like the video, subscribe to the podcast and get more content like this here on this podcast. We provide commentary and perspective on popular culture. I talk about true crime, a little dating and I also add in productivity tips to help you to get your mentality right also got some content to help you possibly create your own content or your own podcast if you want to talk about things like this in the future. Now, without further delay, let’s get on to the show. Let’s get into what we really came to talk about here today. And that is happiness.

What does it really mean?

What I think and what I’ve started to realize is

people think that to be happy, you need to have something you need to obtain something you need to be live

Even in a particular place, you need to have a certain income.

You need to go on specific trips and excursions and what have you.

You need to have status or power.

Is that something that you think happiness is?

I must admit, I’ve thought in the past that these things are things that would bring happiness.

In the culture today, this is a culture podcast in the culture today, especially in America, we live in an age of consumerism, of advertising, the advertising industry boomed. I think it was in what was it? The 20s, the 30s. I don’t want to digress. But we had a huge advertising boom, right here in this country.

And during that advertising, boom, we got pushed products. We got pushed, you need to have this cosmopolitan, you need to have the white picket fence the house, you need to drive a Cadillac, you need to have a nice watch, you need to wear you need to buy diamonds for your lady, to make sure that what is What the What’s that saying that they say diamonds are a girl’s best friend, right? We’ve been fed all of these things. And at the end of it all, after you’ve worked endless hours, after you’ve saved money, after you’ve invested and after you’ve done all of these things, eventually you’ll find happiness when you buy that diamond, or when you obtain that, that material possession, or you’ve gotten this this house, but no, you got to get another house, you got to get a beach house, you got to get a yacht, you got to get all of these different things, or a boat or a dinghy or whatever it is. You need to obtain things to, to obtain that. That very elusive pursuit of happiness, right. This is what we’ve been sold. We’ve been sold this dream, we’ve been sold this idea that to be truly happy, we have to do what to be truly happy.

You have to obtain something, or you need to be with a certain person, or you need to go to a specific place.

And it has to be some designer peace of material cloth that you’re wearing. What if I told you that the happiest people in the world

don’t have much? What if I told you and this has been studied, the happiest people in the world

live very, very low key lives. They usually work the earth they usually are working in agriculture. And they see their work every day. They their happiness, and their fulfillment and life is not tied to material things. I think there’s something that we all can learn from what they

have experienced and their journeys through life. I’ll tell you a story about myself. I grew up here in Michigan.

I started working at the age of 16. I worked at a grocery store. And I was bagging drove bagging groceries and working minimum wage at that time and going to high school.

Well eventually I went to college and I went to a small Christian College. And while they’re at St. College, I got a summer job.

The summer job I got was landscaping. If you’re not familiar with landscaping in Michigan, it gets humid out here. It’s nothing like the people down south but it gets humid it gets round at 85 Really high humidity and it is tough work. It’s tough work doing landscaping. We will go out I will work from like 7am to 5pm. Monday through Friday. Sometimes we will go work early on Saturday for like a half day. But we will go and we would plant plants trees

do grading where we get a landscape a yard or a residential complex or commercial complex, ready to be seeded for grass. We would

make like barrier walls and retainer walls to make sure that somebody’s landscape looks tight. You’ve guys seen it before. I would think that you’re familiar with landscaping, but it was tough work.

Sometimes we would also do like, small driveways or little like, paved, or what do you call it, we would do like we would lay bricks to on like, on roads and stuff. So we would do some of that stuff too. So it was tough work, it was out there in the heat. But I say all of that to say,

it was very fulfilling work. I really enjoyed it. And for anybody that’s a young person that’s coming up to college, I really highly recommend doing that job. Because you know what it taught me more so than anything.

It taught me how to appreciate

working with my hands, and doing an honest day’s work.

I think in the culture today,

a lot of people are working in jobs where they’re sitting at a desk, they’re writing reports, or they’re doing like analytical stuff, or engineering or customer service, or what have you, they’re not really seeing their work, it’s hard to see your work where you’re doing, when you’re doing work like that.

And what I’ve benefited from, and what I really appreciate it was going to a place at the beginning of the day, seeing it look once one way, dirty, dusty, you know, discombobulated or, you know, just not looking the best aesthetically, right. And then by the end of the day, the whole entire landscape being transformed and actually seeing what I did.

I think there is something to seeing tangibly, the effort and what you put in what you’re doing. And there’s also like a degree of

pride you take in your work when you’re working with your hands, and you’re, you’re doing that type of work. And I am fortunate for that, that I had that experience in college because it, it helped to ground me, it made me appreciative of people who do hard work and hard labor. And I want to tie it to other people. And what I’ll say is having that type of

appreciation for the things that you do, can be utilized by more people, more people can take that experience that I learned by working that type of job. And what they can do is they can use it in their everyday life by

being more present in the thing that you’re doing, taking pride in what you are doing day by day. And if it’s something that you

is going to find a hard time doing, like taking pride in what you’re doing. What is your plan on getting a position or a role or starting your own gig or your own business to where you can take pride in the work that you’re doing? Shout out to you yoga with the with the nice greetings Hola. She says, Hey, from New York, shout out to you.

Put you put it up here. Appreciate you

eat something good in New York for me.

So I say all of that to say that.

I think that happiness. True happiness is not something that comes from material things. It doesn’t come from a job. It doesn’t come from a relationship. It comes from within.

It comes from having

being present, and being grateful for the things that you have going on in your life. I know it seems simple. But trust me with this, trust me with this. Being happy

is not something that somebody does to you. Or it’s not something that people can change about you. You have to make the choice that you’re going to be happy and it’s going to come with being present and in the moment with things that you have going on with your life. I know me personally, when I am anxious or if I’m or when I’m not happy with something that I got going on or if I feel rushed, or if I feel like I’m not

when I feel like I’m not

moving towards my inherent purpose and actually doing something that I feel like I have that is my passion or I’m driven about or moving towards a goal

that I have, that’s when I can feel stagnant. And that’s when I don’t feel like I’m living to my fullest potential. And that’s when I feel the weirdest and like,

kind of blah. And what I’ll say is having purpose.

Having pride in what you do,

taking

everybody else away from it, not deriving your happiness from other people is the key to having a life. That is truly what’s the best way to say it. It truly feels authentic and real.

I don’t rely on other people for my happiness. I appreciate the people that I have in my life. But I think that’s something that you decide.

You decide

what’s going to make you happy. And if right now, you’re not happy in the situation that you’re in? What are you going to do about it to change it?

Far too often, I see people talking about how that some dollar amount.

But what if I told you, I have a study here, I might pop it up, I might not.

There’s been multiple studies.

I might not put it up on the screen, but I’ll just say reference it here.

There was a study that was conducted

by Princeton US university that found that once your salary hits $75,000

For the majority of people making more money past $75,000, adjusted for inflation might be a little bit more now

won’t have much effect on your day to day happiness. People who bring home less than $75,000 a year typically are going to undergo more hardships, such as divorced ill health, while higher earners generally report more satisfaction within their lives. Yes, but the significance of the difference from 75,000 upward isn’t really much. So what that tells me is material possessions alone is not going to make you happy. Now, I am a realist, having more money is not going to hurt. And what having more money does more so than anything is this.

Get my water.

What happened more money more so than anything does is it gives you the freedom of your time.

It gives you the freedom, more options and choices. And that is a great thing. I don’t think people should go and be monks and just completely forgo money. I think having money. Having the ability to buy things purchase property purchase items that you enjoy, is it’s a great luxury to have. But above all else, it frees up your time.

Okay.

People who are very successful, talk about how they grind it. And they worked 100 hours a week while they were

in their season of growth, and of building up businesses and they talk about how they grind and they dedicate themselves and they sacrifice in the short term so that they can buy back their time later.

And if you are somebody that knows that you’re gonna want to live a more luxurious lifestyle, you’re gonna want to go get on yachts that you pay for or that you commission out. Or if you’re gonna want to go and dress all designer and stuff you’re gonna have to sacrifice for a season in the interim, to eventually get there. But what I’m what I’m here to tell you is the material things, the yachts and all that type of stuff is not going to make you happy. What I think is people who have purpose, are happy. And if you can find purpose in what you’re doing, and it makes money, that’s the key.

That’s the key to true success. When you can do something that you truly enjoy,

and you’re gonna make money off of it.

I got I gotta give you a side effect. That’s the key, okay.

Don’t let people

give you this idea and this notion that

certain things or

a lifestyle that you’re going to have is going to make you happy because it won’t.

It is my belief

that people who have purpose who are driven, who are moving towards a goal, and authentically expressing themselves and moving towards that

are people who are going to be happier, a usually that comes from people taking pride in what they do.

This is just been on my heart because

I consume a lot of content. I am I love podcasts, I love YouTube, I love to learn new things. And I’ve been seeing a lot of people worrying about the inflation,

or worrying about the price of houses, the price of everything nowadays, and I want people

to understand that. What you do from right now in this moment moving forward is going to determine what your happiness is. I’ll tell you another story.

What guys, it’s not a story. One of my favorite movies.

I don’t know what yours is, drop it in the comments below. Let me know what your favorite movie is. I’ll tell you mine right now.

My favorite movie

is the pursuit of happiness.

with Will Smith.

Why do I love that movie.

Because

if you haven’t seen it, thriller, it came out a long time ago. But that movie is a true story. Who doesn’t love a true story? I love dramas, especially if they’re true, because I can learn something from it.

And what I love so much about that movie was the struggle that he endured.

If you don’t know about the story, Will Smith played Robert Garner, and throughout the movie, he has entrepreneurial motivation and ambition. He wants to succeed, he wants to provide for his family, and throughout the story without giving him without me giving you all of the details into trials and tribulations. He keeps on struggling, he gets evicted, he loses. He doesn’t make enough money to make rent, he’s he owes people, he has a bunch of debtors, his car is getting towed. All of these things are happening to him. He’s living in the shelter with his kid, all of these things are happening. But throughout that time, he never stopped moving towards His purpose and His goal which was to succeed, to succeed, he was not going to be denied no matter what.

And a lot of people no matter what your path is, and whatever your and whatever your journey is, people can relate and resonate with that story. We all have our own journeys that were going on. But eventually, with enough persistence, with enough failures, with enough bad times, if you are moving towards your goal,

and you have a purpose, and you have focus, intention on what you want to do, eventually you’ll get where you want to be. And that’s my favorite movie because it’s, it’s it’s called the pursuit of happiness. But there were not a lot of happy times in the movie.

But I think

without us knowing

we are our most happy, quote unquote, and feel the most alive.

When there’s a struggle when there’s when there’s some turmoil when there’s a challenge when we have purpose. I think the main thing that gets lost in society is people think that your life is supposed to be easy. And when you have a lot of money and resources that you think you’re you’ve made it and life is over No. What happens more. So

what happens more than anybody wants to talk about is people who have a lot of resources, sometimes that’s the worst thing that could ever happen to you, especially if it was just handed to you look at people who are very successful and wealthy and then look at them and how they built up their money and how they’ve so successful and driven and have purpose and ambition and charitable and all that. Then those same people look at their children.

Sometimes that’s a detriment to their children. If they’re just handed though that wealth and they never built it because

Those children, if you don’t watch out, they have no was looking at the right camera, they have

the purpose, they don’t have the purpose.

And what are they say idle time is the devil’s playground,

you have to be careful of these type of things.

Because I’m starting to recognize more so than anything.

The real meaning and purpose of life is to impact others

to, to put a positive impact on the world, and to constantly be moving towards your ultimate goal by getting better by one degree each and every day. And I think we lose sight of that. I know I’ve lost sight of it at times. And

for me, creating content that really means something, even if it only helps one person is okay. With me.

I can live with that.

Because I don’t want to just put out things that aren’t going to actually help somebody in a profound way at some point. And I know when I was growing up and trying to figure out what I wanted to do, and buy in stuff that really hasn’t served me. I wish I had somebody to tell me like, you know what, that’s not really what life’s about, man. It’s about finding something, no matter what that is.

Find something no matter what it is, that is gonna fulfill you.

That always doesn’t mean making money.

But

if you can find something that is going to fulfill you

that you could teach or help other people, and it’s gonna make money, then really get focused like a laser on what you can, what you need to do, to be successful at it and to get more adept at it and go after that no matter what that is, if that’s being a podcaster. That’s being a content creator. If that’s running a business, if you have an idea, write it down, figure out a plan and go after it.

Because you create your happiness, somebody else doesn’t do it for you. You have full autonomy and control over it.

Because what I’ve noticed is happiness just gets thrown about all the time. Like I’m not happy.

This has happened to me this has happened to me, I can’t do that. Do it because of this, this that blah, blah blahs a blase. blase as some people say, no.

You have ownership of that. Nobody else does. Understand that bad things happen to people. Some people have been dealt a shitty hand in life. Some people really have struggles have medical conditions, disabilities, I am not trying to be

what’s the word? I’m not trying to be callous, or disregard those people I understand. But that’s the exception, not the rule respectfully.

If you’re able bodied,

you’re healthy.

You have every opportunity as the next person

to take ownership of your happiness, whatever it is, whatever that is, if you want to be get a Lambo. If you want to get a mansion, if you want to get a yacht, if you want to wear diamonds, if you want to have a Cuban link chain like the rapper’s, then by all means, create a plan and go get it but don’t complain about where you are, if that’s what you want. My only question for somebody that’s thinking like that is is that something that you want? Or is it something that you think you want just because you’ve seen other people on social media have it?

I think more people that you know, are the latter and they just want things because other people have it.

I would encourage you to to figure out what you actually want, and then go after that.

No matter what it is.

Because

we only got one life here, and

I’ll wrap this up like this.

I recently saw a video that Ali Abdullah did

And in the video, he talked about a book that he was reading.

Ah, I’m losing track right now my mind is kind of blanking. Let me pull this up. But he was talking about a book that he read. And the guy in the book, I don’t want to misquote it. So I’m just gonna pull it up real quick bear with me.

The guy in the book he talked about

the author is

Oliver Burkeman. And he talked about the book is called

four thousand weeks

of life, and it’s incumbent upon you. So it’s called 4000 weeks, right? And the premise of the book is this. Shout out to you star bunny.

Shout out to you. Thanks for listening. Like the video, please subscribe to the channel if you’re getting value. But in the book, Oliver Burkeman talked about 4000 weeks? And did you know that we have 4000 weeks? If you live to the average age that a human being lives? Everybody has 4000 weeks, if you live a full life was a majority of people do?

How are you going to spend your 4000 weeks?

That put into perspective for me? And it was just like, What am I doing with my time because time out of everything else we have in the world?

Is something you can never get back. Ever.

How many more weeks are you going to spend? Doing something you don’t want to do?

How many more weeks of your 4000 weeks? Are you going to spend doing something that doesn’t serve you? Does it serve your family

that you don’t like?

How about you take the next

I don’t know how many weeks are in a year, the next 52 weeks, draft up a plan and figure out what you can do. So then the next however many weeks you have, you could do it towards something that you actually want to do. I don’t know, I heard that from that book. And from what Ali Abdullah talked about.

And he really like submit it to me that you know what,

I’m only going to be putting out things and talking about things that I’m truly passionate about that it’s going to help people because I want to spend the weeks that I have actually making an impact and doing things that I want to do that I think are going to serve a bigger purpose.

Whatever it is for you, like I’ve said before, I want to I want you to do that. I encourage you to do that. Oliver Bergman 4000 weeks very powerful.

And like I do all the time.

I don’t want to waste your time. So I’m going to keep this nice and punchy and to the point.

I’ll leave you with this.

I think I’m going to podcast again tomorrow as well. I’m going to I’m going to try to go daily. I’m going to I’m going to try to go live more try to go daily. But I’m going to leave you

with this one of my favorite quotes from none other than Bruce Lee.

absorb what is useful?

Reject what is useless.

And add what is essentially your own.

I’ll say that again.

absorb what is useful.

Reject what is useless.

Add what is essentially your own.

I think that quote speaks for itself. Bruce Lee is so profound. I will highly recommend anybody listen to the Bruce Lee podcast by Shannon Lee.

My name is Montay Lee, we’re not related. But shout out to Bruce Lee. Shannon Lee, his daughter, her podcast. It’s profound if you want to get some insight on just his philosophy, his mentality. He has a lot of depth and it could help you to unlock your fullest potential. And think of things in a different way to be able to be a more productive

Have a healthy and aware person. I recommend it for anybody. And hey, that’s been a bonus episode of the Karat Juice Podcast. If you got some value out of this commentary, this perspective on happiness and what having the right mentality can do for you do me a favor like the video subscribe to the channel hit the notification bell so you get notified anytime I go live because you never know sometimes I just pop up on here. You know, I want to keep you on your toes, keep you on your feet. All right, and also if you’re listening to the audio feed, appreciate all of my audio listeners. I really appreciate serving you here on this podcast do me a favor rate and review the podcast please five star five star five star that’s on Apple podcasts or Spotify. And

before I get out of here, I just want to let you know this podcast is edited written produced by yours truly Montay Lee, and like I say every time here at the Karat Juice Podcast,

love somebody. hug somebody. Do something good for someone not expecting anything in return. And until I see you next time, peace. We are gone.

Tough Times Don’t Last, Tough People Do!

Episode Summary

In this episode, we discuss how during tough times the importance of mental strength and determination and why working on your mental fortitude, determination, and awareness is the key factor to you ultimately reaching your goals. I also spoke about someone who I am inspired by Ali Abdaal, who is a content creator who is very accomplished and successful. He has become a beacon of positive energy, knowledge, and productivity online. It is my intention in this episode, to give you some insight and perspective on what type of mentality is needed to ultimately break free of the ordinary and mundane situation you are in so you can finally reach your goals and unleash your full potential. Life is a journey don’t let the tough times and your circumstances hinder you. Remember that there is much we can learn from one another and Ali Abdaal’s example of what it means to be an exceptional and successful person. 

Don’t forget to share this podcast with someone you think would enjoy it, please rate and review the podcast! Your listenership and support are greatly appreciated & I am grateful to serve every one of my podcast listeners.

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Montay Lee 0:13
Welcome to the Karat Juice Podcast. I am your host Montay. Lee here at the Karat Juice Podcast, we observe society, we digest it. And through the process of all that we try to progress forward. This is a bonus episode, I just wanted to get some things off my chest, talk about some things and add some value to you here today. And if you’re listening to the audio version of the podcast, please do me a favor housekeeping, please rate and review the podcast please five star five star five star that really helps out because it helps people to find the podcast. And if you’re watching and listening on YouTube, do me a favorite YouTube stuff, like the video, share this video with somebody that you think would get value out of it, I really would appreciate it also hit that notification bill because I haven’t been seeing people hit the notification. So I want to make sure that people are getting some of this value I’m going to be adding here today. I don’t want to waste your time I’m gonna get right into the content. And what I wanted to talk about today is toughness, about not being a victim to your circumstances in life, about not succumbing to all your circumstances to the obstacles that you might face because we all face them. I had a great conversation with a friend today. And we were talking about the mentality that people have, even today after so much time, without being too descriptive. I want to talk about a time where we’ve all been, for the most part. If you’re not in high school, currently, you’ve been in high school. And do you remember? What’s your mentality was when you were in high school? Do you remember if you just humor me a bit? What was your mentality when you were in? When you were in 10th grade? What were you thinking about? Were you thinking about the things that you’re thinking about now? Were the issues that you had at that point in time? And the contention and the debates that you had with people? Were you thinking about similar things during that timeframe? If you’re a functioning human being and if you’re somebody that’s successful, and and that has progressed forward and continue to develop? The answer to that most likely would be no, the problems, the issues, the goal that you had, the goals that you had, during that period in that season in your life, have changed. But what I’ve observed, and what I have noticed is there are some people who for whatever reason, and I’m not trying to condemn anyone, have not continued to progress and develop since high school. There are some people who still have the same job that they had directly out of high school. And they are constantly complaining or constantly looking around and trying to figure out why am I still in the same place I was when I was 1819. And now I’m 3031 32. And I haven’t progressed and I’m still in this perpetual cycle. Well, if that’s you or your situation, or you want to learn how to progress forward, you’ve come to the right place. I’m going to give you some coaching right now on mentality and what you need to do to be successful. I’m gonna take it back to me and tell you when I was in high school, I was scrawny, probably like 160 570 pounds soaking wet. I was like 6364 because I had a growth spurt from my freshman to sophomore year, wearing clothes that were far too baggy. Wearing clothes that were far too baggy. We’ve all been there. Let me let me hit this for myself. And just trying to figure out life. We all have to go through that phase in high school. I wouldn’t say I was the popular kid. I wouldn’t say that. I had it all figured out because I didn’t I try my best to learn as much as I could. I was a bit nerdy. I played sports. But I had an A centric group of friends. I’ll say that I I love to learn stuff about, about people to learn new things. And I had a small group of friends.

I’m not happy and proud to say that I haven’t kept in touch with most of the people that I’ve known from high school because we’ve walked different paths of life without being too descriptive. But the conversation that I had with a friend earlier, we talked about how it’s interesting how people who were popular in high school and not all, but a lot of people who were popular in high school, and that were, you know, the life of the party. Making money, maybe not in the best type of waves living fast lifestyles have come upon hard times, or aren’t progressing forward like you thought they might have when you saw him in high school. Word to the wise, I’m 33. Right now. You don’t want to peak in high school. You want to have some habits that you’re forming, as you’re a younger person, as you’re developing, going through college and all that, you want to live your life, but you want to learn from other people. You want to learn from your adolescence, young years going up through college, and you want to continue to try to progress because if you don’t, you’ll get stagnant. And you’ll end up in a situation where you’re still in the same job, you were directly out of high school, and you’re trying to figure out what I’m going to do next. In this episode, I’m going to try to give you some solutions on things that you can do to get out of that cycle of stagnation, and hopefully progress forward and get to your goals. You have to figure out what your goals are, you have to figure out what you really want to do. I am not comfortable where I am. I want to continue to progress. That’s why, since an early age, I have always been somebody who has gravitated towards learning like, I’m the type of kid and I’m the type of person. I was the type of kid and even still to this day, I like gravitate towards the documentaries. I love a really good documentary, Netflix has some of the best ones, where I can learn something new about something that happened that I didn’t know about. A good documentary that I would recommend to anyone to check out is it’s called the 13th. If you haven’t checked out 13th It came out like maybe three or four years ago, it talks about the 13th amendment. And it is a great watch for anybody. Another documentary that I’ve recently watched was called tread and it’s about a man. The exact location is slipping me but in a small town who went on a rampage. With a heavy piece of machinery, I don’t want to give it away. Because he felt slighted by the townsfolk that one was also on Netflix, I believe. But before I digress. What I’m trying to say is your mentality. And your approach to life is going to be your main. Let’s say your main transport your main vehicle to get to where you want to go. And a pitfall that I see too many people doing and too many people. Unfortunately succumbing to is. They don’t seek guidance. They don’t speak to anybody outside of their bubble. And unfortunately, they are listening to or believe that they don’t have the ability to do better. They don’t have the capacity to reach their goals. They don’t want to get out of their comfort zone. They’re comfortable going to the same job they’ve been at for 10 years because it’s comfortable. They’re comfortable working in a factory, they’re comfortable working a minimum wage job, they’re comfortable in the position that they’re in and they don’t want to take any risks. They don’t want to develop themselves and get a skill where they can make a higher income. And to me, that’s a mistake. That’s a mistake. If you want more. If you’re content with where you are, I don’t want to knock you but if you’re content with where you are, you can’t complain about the outcomes you’re getting. If you’re not trying to do better, if you don’t ever want to get beyond where you are You have to figure out and really think, what do you actually want?

Do you want to stay in that same position you’re in? What skill are you providing to the marketplace, having this mentality, I am inspired by people that aren’t just comfortable with the status quo. One of my biggest people that I really admire and look up to is, I don’t know you’re familiar with them. Ali Abdol. He’s here on YouTube. He talks about productivity. He was went going to school in Cambridge, to be a doctor, he went through school, went through medical school and everything, he’s a doctor. But he also during that time, started a YouTube channel. While he was going to university studying to be a doctor, he started a YouTube channel. And the purpose of his YouTube channel was to teach others medical students how to study for their medical exams to become a doctor. He was doing that all of that study, very vigorous work, I can only imagine because I know for a fact that I wouldn’t have been able to do that, that’s very committable on its own, just studying to be a doctor, but to do that, and run a YouTube channel and continue to stick with it and persevere, and to have the determination to continue to add value to the world. And guess what, Ali ADOL has gotten so big on YouTube, that he decided, You know what, I’m not going to be a doctor. Now, I’m just going to be a full time YouTuber. Shout out to him. So, he is inspirational to me, because he was not comfortable with just becoming a doctor, he wanted more, he wanted to use the gifts that he has, he always had a dream of becoming a content creator. And he decided to do it, even though he had something else that was taking up some of his time. And he sacrificed some of his free time that he had in that moment. And he’s using it now, how he pleases. If you want something, and you want to go after it, and you really, if you really want something, you will sacrifice and risk some time to get it. I’m not saying that the path is going to be easy. But if you’re somebody, I want to give you some tangible things because I don’t just want to rant at you. I want to give you some tangible things that you can do to get out of your situation. I preach here on this YouTube channel. And yeah, if you’re getting value out of this, please do me a favor, like the video, subscribe to the channel hit the notification bill, if you are somebody that wants to get out of the situation that you’re in, I especially if you’re a guy, I am a huge proponent of you getting into the trades. Okay? What are the trades, that’s plumbing, that’s being electrician, that’s haich H back which is heating and cooling. That is there I say electrician getting a trade, okay? It doesn’t cost you a lot of money to get started. You can work under neath a senior person tradesman, and you can work under them get paid some money, and earn your way and get adept in whatever skill you need. And ultimately, you can get the certifications. And you could have your own business, you could be a blue collar business person, don’t have to go to college for that you could have a high school diploma or a GED to get started doing that. Where do I get started? What’s the tangible step that I can take? Okay, wherever you are, trust me, it’s this easy. Go to Google type in trades near me, I repeat. Go to google and type trades near me and go from there accordingly. And if you’re not feeling the trades, if that’s something that you don’t want to do, and for the ladies, you can also get it to something I would recommend coding. That is something that is highly sought after with the boom of technology with everybody creating the app every two seconds. Coders are needed. And there are so many resources and so many companies that are seeking somebody that really wants somebody to be able to code. That’s a skill that if you got it, you could get paid easily six figures for it. And you could work pretty much anywhere because you could even do that remotely. That is something that you should be seeking doing. If you’re not happy with where you are. You want more. You want to have a skill that the market needs Get into coding. Now I’m going to get into what I really wanted to talk about, since I gave you some actionable steps.

A lot of people are comfortable with it with where they are. They don’t want to get out of their comfort zone. And what I’m here to say is, you got to be tough. Life is tough. Life does not owe us understanding. We can’t control our circumstances, we can’t control the hands and the cards that life has dealt us, we just can’t. You can’t control that. However, you can’t control how you respond to it. I’ll say that, again. We can’t control the cards that life has dealt us. Nobody can. Some people are born into a family that’s rich. Some people are born into a family that’s poor, some people are born into the middle. Some people are born with deficiencies, where they’re maybe not that athletic. So the NBA is out of the question. Some people are very smart, but they had to develop and nurture that. And they had some intrinsic, just God given gift, the ability to be able to retain information. However, wherever you are on the spectrum, what you can do is you can control where you are in this moment. And in this moment, if you’re not where you want to be, it’s your fault. It’s my fault. If I am not where I want to be, it’s nobody else’s fault. And once you recognize that, and you realize that and you put the onus on yourself, it actually frees you. And you could say, Hey, I am in control of my life, I am in control of where I am, what am I doing today to get where I ultimately need to be. And and I’ll tell you playing video games, I’ll tell you smoking weed, tell you drinking too much. I’ll tell you chasing women, I’ll tell you going shopping, when you don’t got the money and you’re putting it on the credit card is not helping you especially not in this economy. You have to sacrifice for a season to get where you ultimately want to go. And too often people say I can have it all. You can’t have it all. Anything that you want to have that’s worth having is going to be difficult. But one thing that I’m starting to realize is the journey is what you will eventually appreciate. If you ask any person what I’ve studied, I study successful people, successful people say this while they’re going through it initially, and they’re trying to build themselves up to be successful. During that process. It’s not easy. Sometimes they felt like quitting. And they are just felt like they’re trudging through mud. We’ve all had circumstances where we’re dealing with a situation that’s tough, and we want to give up. However, somewhere if you stick with it, you have the mental fortitude, the toughness, the just the grit and determination to push through, what you’ll realize is eventually you’ll you’ll get conditioned, and you’ll get hardened, and you’ll get better. And you’ll get more adept. And you’ll get more skill. And you’ll get more confidence ultimately, in what you’re doing. And you’ll start to appreciate the adversity, you’ll start to appreciate the obstacles, you’ll start to appreciate how you got to critically think and how you got to work through problems. And that’s the key to success. What I want to tie this into is successful people, they appreciate the journey. And they appreciate the journey so much that once they make their first million, they have one company, it’s successful, they need a new challenge. So they started another company and it compounds. I know you’ve heard about something before called compound interest. The same thing happens with success, a successful person, what they will do is since they build up all those skills, and over time, the confidence built it compounds. And what they do is people who are successful, they get more successful because it’s not only that they were lucky. It’s because they’ve developed a skill set over time and those habits that you got to have to be successful will help them in their other endeavors moving forward. So you need to appreciate the journey. Appreciate that something is difficult, because the way you respond to that is ultimately is going to be the reason why you get to and above your goals. I’m realizing this I understand that at anything, such as just YouTube as well, anything that you’re working on,

you have to understand that there’s a process to everything in life, nothing will be handed to you. I appreciate every single listener I have here on this YouTube channel. I also appreciate all of my podcast listeners. I’m adding value today if I am, if I am adding value to you here today, do me a favor, it’s free, like the video, subscribe to the channel, hit the notification bell. So you get notified anytime I dropped some content. I am loving the journey that I’m on here with you guys. I hope. And then I also hope that if you are somebody who is unsure of yourself unsure of where you’re going, think about what I said, think about what I said when it comes to getting into a trade. There are so many people who would be perfect for that. And they’re just procrastinating. Procrastination is the number one reason why so many people stay perpetually in the state that they’re in, in the in the mindset that they’re in. And I don’t want that for you. I want you to do more. But that’s only if you want to do it. If you’re content with where you are. That’s okay, too. I just know myself. I’m trying to continue to progress forward by one at least one degree each and every day. And I didn’t want this to run on. I didn’t want this to be like Super Extended long episode. But I have a quote for you guys. I wanted to share. And I thought it was helpful because this is one of the people that inspired me the most. One of the people that inspired me the most is the legendary Bruce Lee. And he said this I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once. But I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times. I’ll repeat that if you missed it. Bruce Lee said I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once. But I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times. What does that mean? That what I gleaned from that is to be successful. You need to focus like a laser on one objective. You ever heard of that analogy or seen that analogy where it talks about how a magnifying glass and how if you put it where into the sun and let us get off went whatever the point on whatever you’re pointing it at it focus it like a laser because it’s like pinpoint energy on one thing and it could it could cause some damage, it gets extremely hot in that area in that single point where the energy focus through the magnifying glass, you need to have that same type of focus, laser pinpoint focus on whatever your goal is. Whatever that is in life, what you want to do, you need to focus like a laser on it for a season. So that you can get some progress get get some momentum moving towards whatever that is you want to do. So let today be your first step towards that. If I added value to you today is free. Do me a favor, just like the video subscribe to the channel to get more content like this. I’m your host Montay Lee. This podcast YouTube channel is produced edited all that good stuff by yours truly. And I am going to be coming at you guys with another episode. This was a bonus episode where I hopefully added some value to you. And I don’t want to waste any of your time. So I’ll see you guys in the next one. Take care of yourselves. Peace

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In this episode about relationships, we are discussing ‘Love’, and the impact that its meaning of it has had on how people approach relationships. We will dive deeper into what it actually means to love someone. Furthermore, we will also discuss the state of marriage in modern society & what it really means. Lastly, we will cover the prevalence of divorce, why the divorce rate has continued to increase in america & western society & what all of this means for the culture as a whole moving forward. Is marriage dead? Why are more and more men deciding to throw their hands up in the air and walk away from marriage altogether! Tune in to this fresh episode to find out. 

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In this episode, we discuss the unfortunate news that a recession is looming and many people are feeling uncertain about the future. In this installment of the Karat Juice Podcast, we discuss why the recession is upon us and more importantly what type of mentality is needed to succeed during these trying times. Tune in to this episode if you want to know what can be done and what practices you can take to survive in a recession.

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Don’t be AFRAID to Compete!

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In this episode, we discussed the importance of competition, obstacles & adversity in your journey. One thing is for certain… the climate of the culture and society at large is unpredictable. Housing prices have skyrocketed, and inflation is tearing into people’s budgets like a grizzly with a fresh salmon on the side of the bank. Here is the thing, the majority of people are not financially or mentally stable during times of financial and social peril. So what do we do at these times? In this episode, I will offer you a solution when you feel discouraged in the face of the trials and tribulations of life. We all go through it and we all have our own particular stories. Just remember… it is not how you start or how many times you fall… it‘s about having the determination to dust yourself off, get up and continue to fall forward as that is the key to getting to and above your goals. I am with you on this journey. Please join me, and let’s fall forward to our goals together in this fresh episode of the Karat Juice Podcast! 

The inspiration behind why I became inspired for this episode comes from how these legendary lions in South Africa are in competition for prominence every single moment for survival.

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Montay Lee 0:43
So I was scrolling on my iPad recently, like I usually do from time to time. And the YouTube algorithm, bless me with something that I never really looked for on YouTube. And I didn’t know that I want it, but I definitely need it. I say all that to say, yesterday, I was like making some coffee. And on YouTube, I saw a story pop up about six lions, who were brothers. The story was about six lions in South Africa, who killed 40% Of all the lions in their region in a quest to rule their territory. I clicked on the video, I saw the 10 minute story. And I was blown away. I had no idea about all the trials and tribulations that Lions go through, especially male lions in their quest to survive. From that point on, as you’ve probably guessed, I went down a rabbit hole of watching more videos about these particular lions and their tribe and where they came from. And that was pretty much my Sunday

what I learn by hearing about these lions,

Because they are Mapogo. Pardon me. It’s Ma-Po-G-O okay, alright.

And I’m not gonna give away the entire story. I’ll link in the description, a YouTube channel where you could go and watch and listen to the story yourself. I won’t do it justice. However, the story tracks the six lions who were brothers, and how they came up from when they were cubs, all the way till their demise. The Lions ruled from around 2006 to 2012. And during their reign, they were vicious. They were brutal. But they also were very fond of one another. And the reason behind this podcast episode is I’ve had this on my mind after hearing their story. And one thing that continue to rang true for me is competition in life is necessary. We all are competing, even if we don’t know it yet. Part of being someone who thrives in life is understanding that understanding the reality of life. watching these videos and hearing the stories of these lion prides in Africa hit home with me because it showed the true nature In the true instincts of these creatures, and it made me think about the climate of everything that we have going on. In life. We have savagery, we have compassion, we have family and family ties and the bond that that you share between your family and people you are close to. And commitments to the group. You have death you have life.

There’s so many ties to what goes on on the Serengeti what goes on, in Africa, on the plains, between these creatures in their adversaries, and fellow lions, it blew my mind, just watching the story, seeing how vicious they are. And it made me realize that we deal with a lot of the same things in life, in our reality, as some people are blinded by the modern conveniences we have, by the fact that you have a job that you go to, or you have a way to earn a living. But with that being said, we still are competing. Inherently part of being a living creature, being a human being is competing. The fact that you are here is a miracle. Everybody who has been birth is a warrior and a winner, because just to be conceived and to be alive is your one and millions and millions of possibilities to even be here. So if this is your first time listening, I am your host, Montay Lee, this is the Karat Juice Podcast. And I wanted to make sure that today I spoke about the message of competition, and how important it really is in life. Don’t forget that. That’s what I want you to leave with here today. So housekeeping, do me a favor. If you enjoy this podcast, you enjoy the content that I’m putting out, please rate and review the podcast please. Five Star five star five star share with a friend if you feel so inclined, if you think they will get value out of it. Here on the podcast. I provide commentary and perspective on popular culture, things I find interesting. We talk about dating here and there. I’ll also add in true crime if I think it’s worth covering. And I also will add in productivity tips if you want to know how to be more productive, and hey, maybe even start a podcast yourself. So without further delay, I don’t want to waste your time. So I’m gonna get right into the content. Competition why does it exist? Biologically, I would say competition is hardwired into nearly every living creature. It’s a biological imperative. I know you’ve heard before only the strong survive. The stronger creatures like if you’ve seen it, like in birds, for example. A lot of the times you’ll see if there’s a hatchling of birds. The the mother is going to get food or the parents are going to get food they bring food back. If one of the hatchlings is stronger than the other hatchlings. It might. It will take the food before that other hatchling. And over time, if the other hatchling is weaker and smaller, the mother won’t feed the other hatchling. Because it, it knows inherently it has a lease of a chance of survival. Now I know that’s a bit crude. But what I’m starting to understand and know is as As a human being, you have to compartmentalize the human experience. And realize, hey, we don’t all have the same set of, you know, we don’t all have the same set of skills. We don’t all have the same set of abilities, strengths and weaknesses. But once you make it here, and once you’re here on Earth, we all are competing. What the end goal is, and what’s your final goal and point you want to reach? That can vary.

But life in itself is a competition. Are you going to show up every day and do your best? Are you going to try to be the best version of yourself each and every day? That’s what I want you to think about. And that’s the mentality that I think gets lost. In the culture, where everybody is trying to just pass out participation trophies for people, when inherently part of the human experience, and part of your journey is going through obstacles, struggling sometimes not having it all figured out. I think that gets lost nowadays. And it’s important. Watching the MK Pogo lions, go through their rise and their fall. Help me to slow down and just understand that we are all just trying to survive. We are all just trying to make it we are all just trying to figure this thing called life out. And we could get lost in all of the distractions of life. If we lose sight of that. Now I’m not condoning the route in the nature these lions go about. Put dominating their region. I’m not talking about violence here. But what I am saying and trying to add to you is instead of claws, and instead of brutality, the weapon of choice for these magnificent lions. I mean, these guys were huge, huge mains. bulky, strong, powerful, majestic. Instead of having those weapons, why don’t you arm yourself to succeed in life with knowledge with awareness with critical thinking with determination and mental fortitude. We are in some very strange times when it comes to the state of the country with the midterm elections coming up with inflation at an all time high with the Supreme Court passing or overturning Roe v Wade. There are a lot of different stories swirling around in the culture. But one thing rings true. Whether you like it or not. You are going to have to compete. You’re going to have to compete to be able to earn more income. That’s a fact. It’s something that you can’t change. You need to make yourself valuable. If you’re in a situation, that you’re in I find the same thing goes for

your political

affiliation. If you don’t like a certain law, if you don’t like policy that just got voted in if you don’t like that Roe v Wade just got overturned. Well, what can you do about it from here that is incumbent upon you, and how many people you can sway to go to the ballot box and vote for it in your state. It’s about competition. It’s about making sure that you don’t let life happen to you. You go and you act upon a you change your own reality by doing by being the best version of yourself by not laying down. So there is

I have Okay,

I’ll say it like this. I have a newfound respect for all the creatures that are in Africa that are on the Serengeti, the gazelles, the lions, the zebra, the hippo, the hyena. It goes on and on. I kind of envy that their lives are so simple. When they get up, they’re not thinking about what I need to do today. It’s already ingrained in them. Water, food, safety, family. Lineage. Repeat. I think all of the things that we have going on into today, at least for me, do you ever have in your mind where you think like what are we here for? What is all of this about? Why am I going to work every day? Why am I spending time on this certain thing? Is there a better way for me to utilize my time than how I’m doing it right now? I have these thoughts a lot. And they’re starting to become more prevalent in my mind recently.

And I have realized and I’m starting to kind of come to grips with sometimes the best thing that you can do in your life is slow down a bit and take a step back. And just have some awareness on everything that’s going on around you.

Know, me personally, I’m not where I want to be in life. I like my life, I like what I have going on, but I have bigger goals and aspirations things I want to accomplish. And I think more so than anything, I want to start putting out things that are going to impact people in a profound way. I’m not sure exactly what that is just yet, but I’m gonna fall forward trying to accomplish that.

I don’t even know if this is making a lot of sense, but it’s real, at least too often in so many things that we experience in life. Different problems or situations that we got going on. Looking at the gas prices is trying to figure out I know some people are feeling like this right now looking at the gas blast, do I spend money on gas? Or do I do I spend it on medicine for, for my family member or for my job?

Or do I stay at the job that I disliked but it’s paying the bills, but I haven’t gotten a raise in a couple of years is that your situation

there are seasons in life. There’s times that are tough. There’s times that are great. There’s ebbs and flow. There’s ebbs and flows and in in life, there’s peaks and valleys. But I wanted to at least let you know this. You have to compete. In life, you have to compete. People will try to tell you that you can’t do something. People are going to try to tell you, you need something to be able to accomplish your dreams. And I’m sitting here to tell you the number one thing that I am certain of that will ensure that you are going to fail is if you believe it in your mind. What I’m starting to recognize, with media, with other people with programming that’s been happening for decades. The key to keeping you from reaching your full potential

is your belief

that you can’t reach your full potential

that’s what you need to guard against. I want you to compete. I want you to win. I’m competing as well. And you want to know something. Let me tell you a story.

I played sports in high school and in college. I play basketball. I love basketball. I love to play. I was a sinner. I was an undersized Center. I’m six, six. But I love basketball. And when I was in my winter, my small college I played center I was undersized Center. My game resembled that of Draymond Green. I was a defensive player. I love to facilitate pass the ball. I love the block shots. rebrand, rebound. I’ll give you a couple of drop steps in the lane to that dream. I agree. Little Tim Duncan was like my game. Okay. When I played, I play for a small Christian College we had like 350 students. Okay. When I was a freshman, and I played my first game, I was like maybe 200 pounds soaking wet, maybe super skinny. And we went up against a school called Davenport. And they were bigger than us. And when I tell you we got out there and we had to lose we lost by like 80 points. It was crazy. It was crazy. These dudes have been eatin steaks and potatoes since like four years old. They was huge. They was massive. And they dominated us and me. And you want to know something? I was glad that I had that experience looking back on it, because it toughened me up. It showed me that I had a lot of work to Do Okay so the next year by the time I was a sophomore, I got better. Got into the weight room a little bit. Learn the game of basketball in a more in depth way learned how to communicate better with my teammates. Got some experience than that next time we went played Davenport, hey, we didn’t lose by that much we lost by like maybe 20. Okay. Fast forward to the by the time I was a junior and a senior and hey, I was around 220 pounds 225 I gained like 2025 pounds of muscle working in weight room. I was I had way better awareness. I was more confident because with the reps I put in over years. And by the time I was a senior, I was an All American. Our little small Christian College was beaten, beating some of the bigger schools that were inviting us to go and play them. And we were number one in the nation towards the end of the season that year as far as our rain. So I say all of that to say the competition that I experienced as a freshman getting my butt whooped helped to build character. It helped to show me that you don’t have to have it all figured out. But having a spirit of competition and having that mental fortitude and being a competitor and being competitive. And embracing adversity is the key to life. I think that the key to true happiness and true joy is going through struggling going through adversity and not letting it damper your outlook in your mentality on life. I think we go through all of these things for a reason. And the difference and key to come in through it is how you handle all of that adversity and those tough times.

It’s been a weird and crazy past couple of years I know throughout the pandemic with what we have going on now with inflation. House prices crazy going through the roof people asking 20 $30,000 Or asking. But I wanted to just let you know that everybody doesn’t have it figured out. If you’re on Instagram all the time you see people you know posting on Instagram looking like they’re living it up. Sometimes they not they don’t even gotta like that. Sometimes they got a fake private jet. I’ve seen stories about that, which is nuts. Not to knock nobody but just saying Instagram is the highlight reel. It’s not real life. Some people do have it, but it’s not real life. You only see the highlight reel. You never see the lowlights. Okay. So, what can you take away from really me just kind of giving my thoughts and what I’ve been feeling after hearing about the Mapocho lions never give up. Don’t be afraid to fail. If you’re going to fail at something fall forward, learn from it and get better and live to fight another day. I think we just caught in the rut of thinking that the difference from you succeeding and winning in life is somebody else doing something to help you and that is the wrong mentality. The difference? I’ll say it again and you reaching your fullest potential happens with you. It happens in your mind You making the decision that, hey, I’m not satisfied with what I have going on? What do I need to do? What can I do to change? What’s been going on? In my life? We all know the definition to insanity. Right? Class, we all know the definition to insanity, right? What is it? You got it right? Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results

let’s break the cycle let’s live with the plan and with an approach that’s proven to work. And what is that

it’s embracing adversity. It it’s having a mentality where you know, the struggle is going to come, you know, the obstacles are going to be in your way, but you embrace it, and you’re going to get better, and you’re not afraid to fail. Most of the people who are successful in life have failed. Failures is part of the deal with anything that you have going on. So put it on you. What can you do in your life right now? What are some things that you wish you had going on? What can you do starting this upcoming week to improve what you got going on as far as that? Think about it. There’s so many things that we have going on in our lives. And I don’t think we think about them, we just at least for me, we just kind of put things off and we just continue to go through the motions. And I can be better about that. I know. And I’m not gonna, I’m not going to act like I have it all figured out. You guys are here with me on this journey. But yeah, it doesn’t sound like it. But I actually was really inspired by seeing the life of these lions. And how they go about their business and how they live by the sword die by the sword, not afraid to fail, not afraid to die to protect their families. It’s inspiring. So I encourage you. When you have some free time, open up YouTube, check out the story of the pogo lions who are on the SEBI Sands National Park Reserve. They actually conduct safaris out there in South Africa, near the Kruger region. And it’s some very inspiring stuff. Viewer discretion is advised. On the videos that I was watching. They show everything. I mean everything it’s a dose of true reality of survival of the fittest of the circle of life, shout out to the Lion King. But it helped to give me perspective on the importance of competing. We’re all creatures here on this earth, we all need to compete to get what we want. And also wanted to add this caveat as well. Just because you’re competing does not mean you wish ill will on the next person or you want to see the other person fail when I was playing basketball when I was playing, you know, like, organized ball. I didn’t want the other team or the person I was playing with to fail. I wanted to see them at their best. When I’m competing. I want to beat you when you are at your best. I didn’t want you to be injured. I didn’t want anybody to be not feeling well or anything like that. I want I love the competition and the game and I want to play you and I want to beat you at your best. I’m not saying I’m the best basketball player in the world. However, I am a competitor through and through I love to compete. I love to defend I love to that camaraderie with comes with playing sports. I think that’s important. For so many people, if you have kids, if you have a family members or friends or a brother or sister or somebody who’s of that age and they can get into organized sports, I really think it’s important on showing somebody the importance of what it means to compete. It’s not about being better than people on like a human rights level or anything. But learning that part of life is going to separate you from so many different it’s going to put you in another level when it comes to your mentality and how you approach things on a daily basis. I cannot emphasize that enough. And I hope this is making sense. And if it isn’t,

I hope that it will help at least one person. I’ve been switching things around when it comes to the format’s here on this podcast. Let me know what you think about it. I wanted this to just be straight, unfiltered dialogue on what I’m feeling and what I’m thinking. And I hope that you guys like it. So this has been just some open ended commentary on the importance of competition from your hosts Montay Lee, this has been the Karat Juice Podcast do me a favor if you enjoyed this content, go ahead and rate and review the podcast you can listen anywhere you find podcasts. You also can watch it on Spotify. And if you are so inclined, please I just re emphasize do me a favor rate it and review it reviews our health on Apple podcast as well Spotify. Lastly, before we get out of here, do I have any other housekeeping housekeeping that I need to do?

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If you don’t take anything else away from this podcast episode, just know this. Competition is good. You don’t have to knock the next person to compete. And keep in mind that as preachers are on this earth, we are all competing. That’s just a reality. Make sure that your mindset is one that’s going to help you get to and above your goals. And like I say every time here on the Karat Juice Podcast, love someone. hug someone. Do something good for someone not expecting anything in return. And until next time. Peace, we are gone.

More Millennial Money Madness!

Episode Summary

In this episode about culture, we discussed the plight of millennials during these trying economic times. It appears that millennials can’t catch a break! We have been through multiple unforeseen obstacles & circumstances in the past two decades and there seems to be no end in sight to the unpredictable downward cycles & instability of the economy. Will we ever be able to buy a home? Will we ever be able to get out of student loan debt? If that is how you are feeling, just know you are not alone and there is information documenting how millennials are the most unlucky generation of all.  However, don’t lose hope, there is a light at the end of the tunnel and if you have the right mentality you can persevere through the turbulence and ultimately achieve success, financial freedom, and above all else, peace.

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Me Too meets Brian Banks.

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In this episode about culture, we discuss Me Too Movement, Brian Banks, False Accusations & how detrimental they can be to society. This conversation is multi-faceted.

*****LISTENER DISCRETION is advised as the topic of sexual abuse is covered in this episode. *****

In light of the Johnny Depp vs. Amber Heard trial the topic of false accusations and there impact of society since the inception of the Me Too era is at the forefront of the conversation in the aftermath of the trial. The last time I broached this subject I mentioned Brian Banks and his story. I think what happened to him would provide further context to the conversation & allow for a deeper level of understanding. Or at least that is what I hope to accomplish in this fresh episode of the Karat Juice Podcast. 

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Montay Lee 0:00
Welcome to the Karat Juice Podcast, where we observe society, we digest it. And through the nuance of it all, we attempt to make progress. In this episode, I wanted to speak about a story that I heard about maybe five years ago. This story, I must admit, impacted my life in a profound way. When I first heard it, I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. It is my hope in this podcast episode, that you will gain a deeper level of understanding and maybe through the context and nuance. You will be able to push the conversation forward in your life with people that you’re speaking with, the next time you hear a story we are trying to gain a deeper level of understanding. So it is my promise to you in this episode, that we will illuminate the unimaginable power of a couple specific words and the impact they can have over your life. Before diving all the way into the story I want you to close your eyes and I want you to imagine if Brian banks was you imagine if it was your son your brother your father, your uncle your friend. Imagine that for a moment. We’ll have more on that later. So as you already know, I am your host Montay Lee here on the Karat Juice Podcast. I provide commentary in perspective on pop culture, we’re talking about dating, we talk about true crime. And I also add in productivity tips. If this is your first time listening, do me a favor, rate and review the podcast please five star five star five star if you’re watching on YouTube, YouTube stuff like the video subscribe, hit the notification so you get notified anytime I drop content. So without further delay, I don’t want to waste your time. So we’re gonna get right into the story. Who is Brian? Banks Brian banks grew up in Long Beach, California. He was born on July 24 1985. From his parents Leo Mia Myers and Jonathan banks. I’m going to fast forward and I’m not going to talk about all of his youth. However, the story picks up in high school in Polytechnic aka poli High School in Long Beach, California. Back in 2000 into his junior year. Bank Banks was a standout super talented, high school football player. He had already committed to USC

what happened from there, his junior year and high school acquaintance why Netta Gibson happened

on one fateful day so in 2002, Brian went to a secluded area of his high school to make out with wi Anita Gibson, his girlfriend at the time the two had their makeout session. But no intercourse was involved with the interaction. Nevertheless, later that same day, bro Bryan was approached by a fleet of cops who pulled up to the high school. The officers arrested Brian and declared it was for a rape of one Anita Gibson.

From that moment, the 17 year old who was about to emerge at USC on a full scholarship and pursue a professional NFL career had his life up ended. How does something like that happen? From a makeout session to being accused of rape.

There’s more to the story. Brian gave his account of what happened after he was arrested. Brian’s stated I was facing 41 years to life at this time. Before I could get the trial, my lawyer put me into an interview room. And she sat me down with this huge grin on her face. As I sat on the other side of the glass, she began to tell me that she came up with this amazing deal with the district attorney’s office. This was the deal. Brian said. He was told that if he pled no contest to one count of sexual assault, he would undergo what’s called a 90 day observation at Chino state prison. He says my lawyer on this day looked me square in my eyes and said, Brian, I guarantee you will get that probation. You’re going to talk to the counselors. They’re going to sigh with you. You will get that favorable report. The attorney continued. But if you walk in there right now and start selecting a jury. I can guarantee you that you’re going to end up selecting a jury. That’s going to be an all white jury. And they’re gonna find you guilty because you’re a big black teenager

could you imagine what was going through Brian’s mind at that point. He made out with his girlfriend. He was arrested by the cops and taking the jail. He’s speaking to his attorney. She’s saying that she made up a deal. She came in and had a deal on the table with the district attorney’s office. And he will be facing an all white jury as a black teenager, if he doesn’t take the deal Brian was only 17 He didn’t have the ability to consult his mother. He was given 10 minutes to make a call on this impossible dilemma to either plead guilty to a crime he didn’t commit or risk facing life behind bars in the end he couldn’t he couldn’t afford to take a chance on 41 years to life so he took the deal but instead

but instead of getting the probation, she promised he got the maximum since five years in prison

what happened from there after serving five years Brian was released. He had to register as a sex offender. wear an ankle monitor and essentially live his life

as a prisoner on the outside for a crime he didn’t commit. Eventually he would go on to play in the NFL for the Atlanta Falcons. So there is a bit of a happy ending to look forward to. But what happened to Brian banks, accuser Wynette a Gibson

there was a break in the matter Brian banks

went from prison sale to the NFL. But that was only possible because of what happened in 2011. While he was still on parole one day Brian received a Facebook friend requests from somebody he was familiar with

when Netta Gibson he says I remember closing my laptop he says I remember closing my laptop like real quick and just thinking like what did I just see? Brian acts one Netta to meet at a private investigators office and that’s where she said this

Female Host 14:33
they’re reporting you know, doing false reports of rape needs to ask the woman closest to them in their lives about this. Ask a woman that you know if she would do that, or if she thinks that other women would do that and you will get the answer no. He’s Brian

Male Reporter 14:51
Parrish’s son played football with Brian banks at Long Beach Polytechnic High in 2002. I wanted to Gibson made her false rape accusation. Gibson’s family got a million and a half dollar settlement settlement from the school district. And banks got five years in prison and five more on parole, shackled with an ankle monitor. So I know I’m not behind bars and I know I’m not locked up right now, but I’m still very much incarcerated. Then last year Brian banks kind of Facebook friend requests from one and a Gibson of Mr.

Private Investigator Parrish 15:22
Banks caught my son Freddie and asked him What should I do? My son naturally says, Hey, you gotta call my dad. He’ll help you with this. Once I was able to read the case. There was no doubt in my mind that this young man was innocent.

Unknown Speaker 15:34
Parrish devised a plan to clear Brian banks name. He wired his office, we have a pin like this with hidden cameras sitting in this pin holder and with microphones we

Male Reporter 15:46
have put the device in that tree right there behind her. We saw on the private

Private Investigator Parrish 15:49
I suggested banks first invite Gibson to his office for a friendly chat about their past. Brian banks asked Gibson for help in clearing his name.

Wanetta Gibson 16:01
I will go through we’ll help you but but she’s afraid of losing all that money from her settlement. All that money they

gave me gave me. I don’t know how to pay back all that because that will take a long time.

Unknown Speaker 16:14
Now comes the hard part. Banks had to convince Gibson to come back the next day and talk to the private eye who was helping free him.

Private Investigator Parrish 16:22
I needed to get her to basically recant everything that she said that Brian did 10 years ago. If I let this man down, I would have to live without the rest of my life.

Unknown Speaker 16:32
The mood in the room was light, but investigator perishes questioning got heavy. Now the big question when she said those things, what did you say to yourself? Wow, I got it. It was the key evidence that banks lawyers from the California Innocence Project needed to go back to court. And that undercover video got Brian banks rate conviction thrown out. Banks lawyer Justin Brooks.

Male Reporter 17:05
While the videotape is a slam dunk in the sense that she’s recounting her testimony she specifically saying that he did not rape her

parents she has had big celebrity cases and well known clients. But this assignment had a different kind of payoff.

Private Investigator Parrish 17:21
Now I had an opportunity to make a difference in a man’s life.

Montay Lee 17:27
That was hard to hear.

That was hard to hear. Even still to this day.

So Bryan, went on in on April 3 2013. He fulfilled his dream of going to the Atlanta Falcons and Bogaard began participating in Falcons practices and training camp. He made his NFL debut in a preseason game against the Cincinnati Bengals. He made two tackles. In that game. He played three additional games before the Falcons released him on August 31 2013. Following the 2013 Seasoning season, NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell hire Brian banks to work in the NFL is Department of operations. And he also worked in the newly created replace center and also assistant with the league social media. Banks ended up working for the NFL for a few years in New York before getting transferred to Los Angeles. Eventually he resigned to pursue su public speaking opportunities. If it wasn’t for the California Innocence Project, he said I wouldn’t have played football. I’d still be a convicted sex offender. So I know that’s heavy. There’s a lot to chew on there. But the moral of the story is it’s a new age an age of awareness of logic and understanding despite popular belief, I think that more than ever, people are starting to wake up and recognize that the common narrative that has been pushed time and time again will no longer suffice at the beginning of this episode, I mentioned how a couple of words could possess unimaginable power and when use they can destroy lives those words are me too

the obvious response in light of this story would be men too. But I’m gonna go in another direction. I propose this trust proof. Let me explain. In the aftermath of the metoo era, it’s not believe all women. It’s listen to all people. Investigate and believe all truth. The truth will only be revealed with proof moving forward with any accusation before casting any judgment, we must trust proof.

And I’ll let you know, I’ll let you go with this one last takeaway. A false accusation can harm anyone regardless of gender, as it affects the cues as well as real victims. Let this story be a reminder that the ultimate goal is equality. The ultimate purpose of the justice system is due process, liberty and justice for all. Regardless of gender. This topic has been at the forefront of the culture because of the recent trial of Johnny Depp versus Amber Heard. And I recognized a similarity between Brian bank story and Johnny Depp story in the correlation is sometimes the difference in you spending time in prison and and you winning a case like this, both sides are innocent. However, sometimes your socio and economic status, your age, your circumstances could be the difference in you spending time. Are you not? And I don’t think that’s justice.

I think that with any accusation, with anything that you hear, it is important to take what the person is saying into account and listen intently. But ultimately, there needs to be an investigation and there needs to be a due process. And there needs to be innocent until proven guilty when it comes to the accused, because it keeps balance in the system when they sway too far to the left or too far to the right. That is when there is chaos and people lose trust in the system. And that is not what we want in the society overall. So I know that was a medium and heavy episode. But I think that the conversation is worth having. Because you never know anyone is literally one accusation away from being in a situation like this. Do you want the benefit of the doubt? Do you want the presumption of innocence? Do you want a thorough investigation? And do you want for there to be proofed? Before you can be put away in prison? I would guess the answer to all of that would be yes. Hey, that’s been another episode of the Karat Juice Podcast. I am your host Montay Lee if you enjoyed this episode, do me a favor rate and review the podcast please five star five star five star also share it with somebody that you think would enjoy this show. You can also find anything Karat Juice Podcast at Karat Juice podcast.com That is Carrie Ka are a tea juice podcast.com I’m also on Instagram, Tik Tok and YouTube Furthermore, this podcast is written produced edited everything else by yours truly Montay Lee Oh will leave today. Like I say every time with the Karat Juice Podcast, love someone. hug someone. Do something good for somebody not expecting anything in return. And until next time, peace.

A Real Conversation: Instant Gratification Culture is STALE.

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In this podcast episode about culture, we discuss purpose, authenticity and the importance of genuine connection. Do you feel like instant gratification culture, entertainment content, social media and sensationalism has impacted you negatively? If so, then tune into this episode because we will discuss the reason why instant gratification, viral content and the attention-seeking nature of the internet has taken such a toll on us. We will also dive into some solutions, where we go from here & what it all means. 

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Montay Lee 0:00
Welcome to the Karat Juice Podcast, where we observe society digest it. And through the nuance of it all, we attempt to make progress. I am your host Montay Lee, and I have been feeling something I think the more accurate way to say that is not much at all. Let me explain. I think that human beings are naturally social and drawn to authenticity in raw emotion. That’s definitely true for me. That is why I am fascinated and love dramas. And if there’s a documentary about a topic that sensitive or a particular issue, I’m automatically intrigued by. I say that to say that over the past year or so, I have started to consume more content online, and I’ve noticed that the majority of it is microwavable. What do I mean by that? It’s popcorn content. Its curated and produce, to get a quick reaction out of a viral moment. A sensational reaction. That’s instant. It’s fleeting, but behind the curtain, there’s something lacking what is that? It lacks? depth. It lacks nuance. It lacks what makes us human. This is the Karat Juice Podcast. Thank you for listening. In please, before we get into this story, do me a favor. rate and review the podcast on Apple podcasts or Spotify as it really helps out. Also share this podcast with anybody that you think would appreciate and benefit from what I’m saying here. I really appreciate you five star ratings are appreciated. Also. Ask me a question. If you have any feedback or anything you want me to cover on the show, I take what you say there into consideration and I am fairly very appreciative of all of my audio listeners

I promise in this episode to make you feel something real ask yourself when was the last time you had a conversation that made you feel something that made you remember it where you felt alive

Do you remember that? Why did it make you feel that way?

We’ll get there. This past weekend I went to a wedding. And while there I got to kick back. I relaxed which is rare for me because it seems like I’m always doing something. But over the weekend while at set wedding. I had some time to reflect and I realized that I had been missing something that I need it’s become apparent to me that the abundance of content that I was consuming for the most part lacks substance and I couldn’t quite pinpoint what it was, but I haven’t now it’s because it was not authentic. And on a biological, innate subconscious, and conscious level human beings we’re drawn to real conversations, stories, journeys, things we can relate to.

Personally, for me the last time I had a real conversation was actually over the weekend. It was on my way back from the wedding. And on the way back, I was a bit tired. I was a bit groggy from the wedding festivities, you could put two and two together. I did a couple of dance moves, did a couple electric slides. Had some spirits, you know, you get the idea. But on the way back, I decided to stop in Traverse City, Michigan. And while they’re in Traverse City, I got to experience some wineries for the first time. I know. Yes, I’ve been living under a rock. I am 33 years old. And I have never experienced wineries. Up in Traverse City, I have a feeling that that’s not a thing that a lot of men do all the time. So give me a little credit. But I digress. So I’m in Traverse City, I go to a couple of wineries. And if you’re not familiar with try Traverse City, it’s located in the northwest area of Michigan. It’s it’s right near Lake Michigan, you can see the water for many of the wineries there. And in Traverse City, there are a ton of wineries in the area, it has to be over 75 of them at least in a range of I don’t know what 75 Square Miles maybe something like that. It’s convinced. And part of the reason behind that is I believe the the soil is nutrient rich. The elevation is appropriate, because there are hills in the landscape in that area. And there’s also an abundant amount of water in the area due to the Great Lakes. And fun fact. I did a Google search while looking at the lake because that’s something that I do. Because I was looking out while having a flight of wine. And I’m looking at Lake Michigan and I’m just like, wow. I wonder how much water I wonder what’s the biggest body of water? I asked myself. So like a millennial that I am. I go to Google, and I find out that the Great Lakes holds 20% of all the world’s fresh water.

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1/5 Of all the freshwater in the world is right here on the borders of Michigan. So I’m looking out I’m searching Google. And I find that out and I’m just like, wow, you know what? And I got to just reflect and look out at the beautiful vista that I’m looking at at Mari vineyard. If you ever if you haven’t been there. It’s amazing. It’s got this Italian it looks like a mansion in Italy. It’s old world looking. It’s got all of this beautiful artwork inside of it. And I’m sitting out and you can look out and it’s like a VISTA in front of me with picnic tables. And the weather was perfect. It was around like mid 70s suns peeking out from the clouds and in the distance. I said People are laughing and smiling and observing the landscape I see trees in the distance blowing I see some boats out on the lake people out kayaking and just blue as far as the eyes can see. And while they’re everything slowed down and I had a conversation about the Great Lakes and I recognized during the conversation I was having that I hadn’t been present for a long time just in the past couple of months in life in the people that I’m around in the experiences that I’ve been having What’s the reason behind that I think the reason why I haven’t been present with the people that I have in my life the experiences that I’ve been having is the type of content that I’m always consuming the microwave content, the viral content, the quick hitting content, that doesn’t really need you to think it’s just there to entertain you. But it doesn’t do an important thing which is nourish you which is supply the h2 O which is authenticity to you to help you flourish like those vines on the hills in the vineyard in the breeze as I said on the Vista looking out sitting there and looking out in Traverse City forced me to slow down forced me to reflect on life. It forced me to have a conversation about life and about appreciating the people and things I have going on in my life and I thought this was an appropriate time to share this with you because I think we are lacking something that we used to have an abundance of here just in life which was real conversations social media online content and entertainment and media has its purpose and it is useful entertaining. It gives us something to always see but it clouds the bigger picture

what is that bigger picture I think it’s one another… let me explain.

Have you found yourself going about your day going about your regular routine and having conversations with people surface level conversations. Hey, how you doing how you been? Nothing much fi things are good keeping moving. We’ve all had it right. I know I have. It becomes common, fair and common things that you do in life but I would argue

Over time we can succumb to death by 1000 superficial conversations

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We are in routines. We are in patterns that are not our inherent nature I feel most alive and I feel more like my true self when I’m having conversations that matter are raw and unscripted in real and we’re lacking that in society. It made me think what can I do to get back to that I understand that it’s not I can’t have a genuine and authentic and nuanced conversation with everyone that I meet, that’s not reasonable or logical.

Montay Lee 16:47
But… I’m going to make a more concerted effort to spend more time with friends go more in depth with somebody that you meet, or that you see and they appear to be having a bad day or they appear to be wanting to engage you in conversation and rather than brushing them off, why don’t you ask them about their life and what they have going on? You might be surprised by what you find out because we’re all in this journey of life together. We all have our own stories our own struggles we all know with the economy with the uncertainty of that with the compound effect of inflation I saw on the news earlier rather a social media posts somebody took a picture of them at the gas pump in California. And I had to double take I thought the price was the price of like

a combo ad In and Out Burger or something like that. It was 950 No, it was somebody at the gas pump. They were paying 950 For one gallon of gasoline and that was recently like last week I think more than ever we need to reach out to one another. We need to spark up conversations with people. Because this crazy as it sounds things that are supposed to bring us together like social media where you can reach out to a message anybody in the world I can open up my phone right now. Slide in the DMS is a hi Rihanna. Hi Obama. You know Hi smooth They might not respond, but I can send the message that’s crazy. However, that same thing that allows you to reach out to anyone pretty much is the same thing that’s forcing people forcing that’s causing people to be less social, where it matters with one another I say all of this to say I encourage you to try this try to have one authentic and real conversation today. And you might be surprised by how it makes you feel because at the end of the day, life is about people and connecting with each other all the superficial things the constant strive to get more money which I think is important, you need to have money because it gives you options. But it’s not the meaning of life. Uncertainty about your job about your living situation about romantic interest about family it all harkens back to one thing, your journey are you adding value to other people around you? Do you feel connected to anything or anyone and it all boils down to our human experience so if you feel so inclined, try to have one authentic in real conversation today

because you never know how that might impact next person. And maybe just maybe that conversation that you have with someone could be the difference in changing your life and changing the life of someone else. We’re all just searching for belonging. We don’t all have it figured out. I definitely don’t have it all figured out I am trying each and every day to get better and to be better than I was the day before. And I encourage you to do to say

so as I said earlier in this episode The goal of this episode was to make you feel something

because if you don’t you will unfortunately be overcome and slayed by the death of 1000 superficial conversations let’s not let that be the case for you. And hey that’s been another episode of the Karat Juice Podcast. I am your host Montay Lee, do me a favor before we get out of here. rate and review the podcast please. Five Star five star five star Hey, let me know what you think about the podcast asked me some questions. If you ask me questions, I could read them on the podcast and get some interaction with you. I really want that so could you do me a favor, please rate and review the podcast five stars. Also, this podcast is produced, edited, written, whatever you might call it by yours truly Montay Lee and like I say, every time here on the podcast, love someone. hug someone doing something good for someone not expecting anything in return. And until next time Peace.

“The Patriarchy is oppressing women in marriage” ! – Feminism

Episode Summary

In this podcast episode about the culture, we are discussing the patriarchy, marriage, feminism and its impact on modern relationships. Has the patriarchy oppressed women? Is modern marriage and the traditional gender roles outdated? Well according to a story I recently found, that is the argument that was made by a devote feminist who is declaring that marriage needs a facelift. I have some thoughts about the BIG BAD patriarchy in this one so get your popcorn ready! 

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Now the BIG BAD Patriarchy is oppressing women in marriage?! (Karat Juice Podcast)

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Montay Lee 0:00
In this episode, we are going to be discussing the patriarchy. The Big Bad patriarchy, feminism, oh my god and the effect it is having on the culture at large. Earlier today, I made myself a burger. It was a real burger, real good burger, not to brag. Grilled it up. All good. I like to cook a little bit to know about me little tidbit. After that, I sat down on the couch, and I opened up my phone and I was strolling through the news. And I came across an article that was published today, June 2, on CNN, and it had to do with the patriarchy, and what it means for marriage. I thought that this topic was important, and I have something to say about it. And I don’t want to waste your time. So before we get right into it, do me a favor. I’m your host Montay Lee, this is the Karat Juice Podcast. If you’re watching on YouTube, do me a favor like the video subscribe to the channel to get more content like this. Also from our audio listeners, if you’re listening to the audio version of the podcast do me a favor rate the podcast five star five star five star, I really appreciate you. So without further delay, we’re gonna go right to that article via C in in and I’ll give my thoughts on this. According to CNN. All right, it says here opinion, it’s time to break the patriarchal wedding Peridot. Here’s how this article is courtesy of Jill Fila Povich and it’s an Editor’s Note, Jill Filipovic is a journalist based in New York and author of OK, Boomer, let’s talk how my generation got left behind. And it also says the opinions expressed in this commentary are solely her own. CNN is saying this is her opinion. Alright, so let’s get into it. And there’s a picture of Jill Filipovic right there in a blue dress she states. Now it’s June, a predicted record breaking wedding season is officially in effect. After two years of pandemic disruptions. Couples are again tying the knot in front of family and friends. And many of us are spinning our spring summers and falls, juggling various marriage related events from bachelor and bachelorette parties to various bridal showers to the weddings themselves. Okay, fair enough. Where does it get interesting? Why did I have to talk about this? Well, here you go. Jill goes on to say. But weddings can also be fraught, especially for feminists and anyone else who believes women should have equal rights in society, and that women and men should be equal members in the marital partnership. Let’s rewind that. Whoever said women don’t have equal rights in society. Where has this notion came from? I have some homework for you. Name one, right or liberty that a man has that a woman does not have in this country in the United States of America. Don’t worry, our way. There is none. So what is this a quality that she’s referring to every right a man has in this country, a woman has. So as far as on a human rights level, that is understood, we are equal as far as human rights. Let’s continue. She goes on to say so much of the wedding culture is steeped in patriarchal traditions and conservative expectations. Perhaps not how a lot of couples want to mark the beginning of their life together. Hold up, wait a minute. Whoever said tradition is a bad thing. Whoever said that having

conservative views and expectations on things is a bad thing. Why does something being conservative have to be something that’s in opposition to You some people have conservative values? Some people are more liberal, some people are more moderate. Why does it affect you so much? Let’s continue. She says perhaps not how a lot of couples want them to mark the beginning of their life together. And yet, when it comes to weddings, even many equally minded couples go through the patriarchal motions. So now it’s motions. Pay attention to the verbiage. Pay attention to the verbiage. This is important. She says, that’s a mistake. Weddings are expressions of culture, religious and family traditions. But they’re also events that represent a couple’s values and their hopes for their lives together. That isn’t to say a wedding determines the course of your marriage. A wedding is one day in a marriage is at least ideally for a lifetime tie. That’s what it’s supposed to be. It’s supposed to be for a lifetime. Marriage is supposed to be forever. But unfortunately, in this country 80% of marriages are, are initiated by women. The majority of the time it’s for error may get this right. irreconcilable differences. Basically, I’m not happy. So what are you trying to prove? Here? It gets better pay attention, pay attention to the agenda underlying with some of this stuff. She says, but a wedding is for many people who marry one of the most significant rituals of one’s life meant to set the tone for a lifelong partnership.

set the tone for a lifelong partnership. You see the verbiage there? I’m sorry. I’m not looking for a partnership. I think there are defined roles between men and women. Men who are respected, are leaders. Logical thinkers, have ambition goals. Women are supposed to be a help make a support system to him. And that doesn’t mean that you don’t take your spouse’s consideration their thoughts into into consideration. But at the end of the day, I think there needs to be a quarterback, a leader of the household who’s going to make the final decision. You listen to your spouse, you take her input respectfully, and you really consider it but at the end of the day, the final decision needs to be with the leader of the household, the head of the household, which in my view is demand. I don’t see anything wrong with those gender roles. Let’s continue. Pay attention to this. It also goes on to say here, and so couples should take seriously the question of which traditions they want to keep, which they want to skip and how the wedding itself can set the tone for the rest of their marriage. She says it’s hard to make the case that marriage itself is a feminist endeavor. Marriage either seems to make people more conservative, or more conservative people are more likely to get married. Married men and women are more likely to vote for Republicans, while single people and particularly single women, you know, are more likely to vote Democrat. Yep, sounds right. Married women do more housework than women who cohabitate with their partners. It is it is not simply the presence of a man that is associated with women spending more time on housework researchers have found it is the presence of a husband. What’s the problem? Her story historically marriage has meant the passing of a woman or girl from her father’s authority to her husband’s Okay, no problem there. Not so long ago married women in the US could be denied a credit card if they didn’t have their husband’s permission to get one and marriage gave a husband the legal right to our his wife. Now that is very Extreme, nobody with Common Sense would say that that is okay. She says marital are wasn’t criminalized in all 50 States until the 1990s. And loophole still exists. What are these loopholes? Are there really loopholes to that? I highly doubt that every write that a woman has a man has in today’s day and age, nobody with Common Sense is condoning are in any situation. So let’s continue. Early, a marital early American marital law was governed by the principle of coverture, which was summed up by English jurists, William Blackstone, thusly, by marriage, the husband and wife are one person in law, that is the very being or legal existence of the woman is suspended during the marriage, or at least is incorporated and consolidated into that of the husband. What is the problem? It’s supposed to be a union, marriage is a business decision. It’s a union between two people becoming one. What’s the problem with that? You’ll see here you’ll see here shortly, feminists have spent several centuries trying to change the many laws that render women legal non persons by virtue of marriage, we have not yet fully succeeded. Across much of the world, wives still don’t have the same rights as their husbands when it comes to everything from divorce, to property rights to child custody, to inheritance to the ability to choose to get married in the first place. Hold up, wait a minute. In today’s day, and age and 2022, women do not have

the same rights as their husbands when it comes to everything from divorce. I know here in the United States of America, where I’m sure this woman lives. When it comes to divorce. 80% of the divorces are initiated by women. Most of those are for era of irreconcilable differences. When it comes to favoritism in the courts. When it comes to family court. Women wipe the floor with men. Most of the time, I would venture to say eight out of 10 cases, the woman is going to get half of everything that the man owns. They’re gonna get custody of the kids, they’re gonna get an inheritance. If you ask me when you talk about some of the riches most of the richest women in the world have earn their wealth, through divorce or through the passing of their husbands. Look at Elon Musk, his wife, I forgot her name. Bill Gates, ex wife, Melinda Gates, I think that’s her name. Wealthy through divorce. The list goes on and on. The Amber Heard situation she got 7 million from the divorce from Johnny Depp, she might have to pay it back now. But you get where I’m going here. So what are these rights in these justices in this in equity and oppression that women have in 2022, that she’s referring to pay attention to the indoctrination? Women have equal rights in this country. But it appears that there are people trying to get more constantly trying to get more. This is part of the reason why men are backing away from marriage. This is part of the reason why men are just like, I’m good. So be careful what you ask for. Let’s continue. She goes on to say.

In many countries, women cannot marry who they wish, including other adult women. In many conservative religious traditions, marriage remains explicitly patriarchal, with wives instructed to submit to their husbands and the husband considered the top authority in the family. I don’t see the problem with the wife submitting to their husband and the husband being considered the top authority in the family. Those are the traditional gender roles that have been around for years and years way before me. I don’t see the problem with that. The key is, are you choosing to marry a man that you admire, love and respect? If you respect the man, and you choose the right man, you don’t have to accept the proposal. Men choose who gets married but you don’t have to accept the proposal. If you don’t think the man will be a good man to follow and to submit to under his leadership. I don’t see the problem here. Let’s continue. In spite of all this many feminists, this author included have still gotten married. But how we do it matters. There’s no perfectly feminist way to walk oneself into a pretty unfeminist institution. But there are a series of choices to make along the way. She says, for example, is marriage something you discuss in depth and come to a mutual agreement on before you get engaged, if you get engaged? Or is it among heterosexual couples? A he asked she says yes, situation. Absolutely. One women, any women listening right now, do you want to get down on one knee and ask a man to marry you know, it’s tradition. And it’s tradition for a reason. MIT, excuse me, men choose who gets married. women choose who gets access to sex. This is the way it has been. And it will always be. I don’t think these roles are wrong in the slightest. I think they are biologically ingrained in us and are there for a purpose. She goes on to say, does the female half of a heterosexual couple wear an engagement ring while the male half doesn’t? Does he asked her father for permission and is getting a grown woman’s father’s permission to make one of the most important decisions of, of adult life? Really, how you want to start in ostensibly egalitarian, ostensibly grown up marriage? Um, that’s a loaded question. But yes, you should be getting the men you should be getting the blessing of the Father before taking your potential wife’s hand in marriage. The man in your potential wife’s life that loves her unconditionally? Is her father? He has, he should have a say. And if he would bless the union or not, you can make the choice after that. But a woman’s father loves her unconditionally. And has her best interests in mind if he’s a good father, most fathers are there are bad fathers. There are bad apples, for sure. But you shouldn’t want to do that. As a man. I don’t see a problem with that tradition. She also goes on to say, before you marry, do you have an honest and serious conversation about the division of household labor about children, and who plans on doing how much of the work about the fact that even couples who intend to be egalitarian often end up very unequal? When children come into the picture a dynamic that leads to a lot of miserable moms? Okay. So you see what’s going on here, everything needs to be equal, right? Everything needs to be equal. But my response to that would be, most women do not want to have an equal partnership. Most women’s studies have shown this want to have a man that makes at least what they make, or more usually 25% more than what they make, at least. Most women,

when they actually have children decide that they really don’t want to be in the workplace like that anymore, or at least on a part time level. So they choose to stay back home, take care of the children and the man were built for work, work more hours, and incense with how much daycare costs, it actually is a smarter move to have the woman there taking care of the children, because daycare is killing people, people are paying 20 503,000 Some people are paying $4,000 a month in just daycare in some places. So if your salary is not going to make up that is not even a smart business move to have you working if the man salary, which is a man that you will respect his salary should be able to cover all of the expenses. It’s just natural rules that are there for a reason. I understand that some people have different situations, and that’s for you. But why do you have to put your potential ie egalitarian Union on all the rest of us? I just don’t see the logic here. Basically, all I see here is a bunch of indoctrination, and I’m going to finish it up here. The last part that I thought was important is she said if you’re a woman getting married, do you change your last name? You shouldn’t your name is your identity and replacing it with your husband’s is a pretty literal representation of as Blackstone put it, the legal suspension of a woman’s very self image and her consolidation into her husband’s identity, see that want to get married, but want to do this hyphenated nonsense when it comes to a union, let me tell you something. I don’t care what nobody says. I am not marrying somebody that’s not going to take my last name. Period. We’re not doing that as hyphenated bullcrap. And I would say, as a woman, you should not want to marry a man who you don’t honor love and respect and want to take his last name. That doesn’t mean your family name dies or anything like that you have a new family. Now the family that you’re going to be building, you’re going to take your husband’s last name. And I find this, I found this article to be very troubling because it’s trying to push an agenda of a mindset that is ultimately going to lead to problems in a relationship. No relationship is completely equal. They’re not supposed to be. I like to use this analogy. When it comes to a successful organization, a successful team and a successful plan. Let’s let’s talk about football. For example, there is an offensive line. We’re trying to get down the field. There’s a head coach who’s calling the plays relaying it to the quarterback. Who in this analogy is the husband and who aids the quarterback in getting the assignment, which is getting a touchdown getting the ball to the other side of the field the most. It is the left tackle. The wife is the left tackle. What does the left tackle do people for all my my football fans. The left tackle covers the quarterbacks blind spots. So when the quarterback the husband is surveying the fields surveying the landscape, okay, navigating traffic trying to make the pass so we can get to where we need to go our goal. The left tackle is surveying his blind spot where he can’t see, that’s where the wife comes in. The wife comes in and is a helpmate, and can see where he is lacking and covers up and fills those blind spots. The left tackle was is very important. Without the left tackle, the quarterback can get sacked the quarterback can not do his job properly. Because he doesn’t have that person, they’re covering up his blind spot. We need both of them to win, get to the goal get scored a touchdown. The quarterback can’t have it can’t be two quarterbacks can’t be two left tackles, swung quarterbacks, the husband, who’s the leader.

In the left tackle is the wife who is there covering up his blind spots, looking for holes in places where he can use work. And that’s where you aid him. And we ultimately get down the field. We awesomely get down the path and we also we ultimately reach the goals that we want to reach I think of you. I think I’ve ran that analogy, far as it’s gonna go. But you get the idea, or at least I hope I wanted to do this. And I wanted to talk about this article. But but because I’m starting to realize that you need to pay attention to what people are reading in the media, there’s an agenda underneath a lot of this stuff that is pushing ideologies, that is not going to help people have productive relations, relationships that last, there are gender roles for a reason. And the majority of women if you really put a lie detector to him and you had them really give their actual take on what they want. They would say they don’t want to work for the rest of their lives. Once they have kids. They want to be a stay at home mom, maybe work part time for a little bit. And to do that, you are going to have to have a man who is a leader who’s ambitious, who’s willing and able to provide and provide protection and security and that type of man, I’m just gonna be honest, most of them is not going to want some ie egalitarian union, they’re going to want a left tackle. They’re going to want somebody to make their life easier, and not be a headache, cover up the blind spots helped me where I lack. And I’ll take your thoughts and considerations into account. But at the end of the day, I’m gonna survey the field, throw a bomb, and we’re gonna get the touchdown, and we’re gonna keep it moving. So that’s my thoughts on this. I am a proponent of actual gender roles that have been going on for years and years. And despite what a lot of people tell you, the patriarchy is not your enemy. It’s the mindsets that they’re trying to push down your throat, to say everything needs to be equal, equal equal. No. As far as from a human rights perspective, yes, there’s no rights that a woman has in 2022, that a man, there’s no rights that a man has that a woman doesn’t have on a human rights perspective in this country, right now. However, when it comes to gender roles, and dating dynamics, there’s double standards on both sides. And understanding that we are different, but we need each other at the end of the day, is how you’re going to get to and above your goals moving forward, and recognize that a lot of people are all here lying to you, and telling you what you want to hear to push their agenda. If this is the kind of union you want, fine. But I want you to ask yourself, especially ladies, especially women, what kind of union do you want with the man? Do you want it to be egalitarian? Do you want to go 5050 on everything? Do you want to have a hyphenated last name? Or do you want to have a situation like Ricky Williams where he took his wife? He took his wife’s last name? Do you want that? Buzzer on that. That’s not what I want. So hey, this has been another episode of the Karat Juice Podcast. We talked about marriage, the patriarchy, the big bad, patriarchy, and gender roles, and some of my thoughts and perspective on marriage. And just the indoctrination that has been going on through the media. And I am here to give you a dose of some Common Sense and perspective, from a masculine man’s perspective. And just because I have my views doesn’t mean I don’t take what you think into consideration if you think differently, so hey, I want to know what you think about this. And my off base. Do you want to have an egalitarian union? Do you want to have hyphenated names or hey, do you want to have your husband take your last name? Let me know in the comments. Ladies, Gentlemen, please be respectful. also liked the video subscribe to the channel if you enjoyed this content. Also, from our audio listeners, please leave me a rating and review five star five star five star as well as

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