In this podcast episode about popular culture. We discuss Cam Newton Comments that sparked a conversation about dating roles & preferences on the internet. Star NFL Quarterback, Cam Newton’s comments about his dating preferences & in particular what he does not find suitable for a long-term relationship for him has caused heated debate and controversy online. Cam Newton made comments about his preferences and he spoke about bad bees and how he wants something different when looking for a women to commit to. Cam Newton’s comments have received mixed reaction online. Let’s talk about what Cam Newton has to say & see if there is any merit in the nuance & context of where he is coming from.
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Brittney Renner 0:00
So there’s not a lot of guys. Yeah.
Cam Newton 0:04
But can you blame them now? And let’s? Let’s keep it funky. Like, oh, I’m kidding do it. Right. And I ain’t gonna lie. I’m not about to hit no damn with Brittany talking about yo was good what’s poppin when you when you want to learn I see what I learned I boom shot through. So why not? Because I don’t want to end up in a book.
Montay Lee 0:27
In this podcast episode we’re going to discuss why a man having an opinion triggers so many people in the culture today my name is Montay Lee, I am the host of the Karat Juice Podcast and we are discussing Cam Newton and some comments that he made about his dating preferences that has triggered a conversation. And some people really didn’t like what he had to say. I will say as a man, I found it very strange and peculiar that a man having his opinion in dating preference triggers so many people. So I don’t want to waste your time. So I’m gonna get right into the subject matter and the content. And then we’re going to have a discussion about men, women, dating preferences, and what should be expected and what should be the standard when it comes to modern dating amongst men and women. The first clip is courtesy of million dollars of game shot out to them
Cam Newton 1:44
ahead of a perfect a perfect example of what a man was in my life. My my father, my parents have been together for 3637 years now. And it’s it’s a beautiful thing. I grew up in a three parent household, my mom, my father and my grandmother. And I knew what a woman was not a bad bitch. Okay, what’s the difference? A woman Okay, a bad bitch is a person who’s just, you know, girl, I’m a bad bitch. You know, I’m doing this I’m doing that I, I looked apart, but I don’t act apart. Okay, you know, and there’s a lot of women who are bad bitches. And I say bitches in a way not to degrade a woman. But just to to go off the aesthetic of what they deem is a boss chick. Now, a woman for me is handling your own but knowing how to cater to a man’s needs. Right? And I think a lot of times when you get that aesthetic of like, I’m my boss, bitch like I’m a dad. So my dad, no baby, like, what? You can’t cook. Okay? No, no, you don’t know when to be quiet, you will know how to allow a man to lead.
Montay Lee 3:07
What is the problem with anything Cam Newton. Explain there. He said, I don’t have a problem with you being a bad be. I don’t have a problem with you get into the bag and doing your own thing. I am just going to choose somebody that’s going to add value to my life. Somebody who is going to be a support system, somebody who’s going to help me and not just take for me. I’m pretty sure you being a bad be you will have people who will be willing and want to deal with you spend time with you all of those things. However, as a man who has something going on, like Cam Newton, as a man who knows what he wants to do in his life, he has purpose and is driven. He wants somebody that’s going to be a support system to him. Do you cook? Do you clean? Are you constantly nagging? Are you going to allow him to lead? These are things that men of value look at look for. And just because that’s what they are looking for doesn’t mean they’re demeaning you. They’re just not going to choose you. There’s a difference. I also have another clip here to provide further context because people are getting misconstrue with what he’s saying. And Cam Newton has his own podcast. He has his own platform where he talks to men and he talks to women and he sits down and he has a dialogue. He has a conversation. One thing that I’ve realized in the culture is this. A lot of people want to just take a clip of a conversation And then say, that’s the doctrine. That’s what that person believes that person doesn’t like women, bla, bla, bla, bla, bla, right, whatever, etc, put in the filler words, they’re demeaning a person, but he sits down on his podcast with women. And he has a conversation. And I think that’s important because people don’t have to agree with what you say, you don’t have to agree with everything that I say, I’m willing to have the conversation, I’m willing to have the dialogue. As you know, here on this channel, what I do is, if I have a kind of a video that I put out, I respond in the comments. Even if you don’t agree with me, I treat you with respect. And I make sure that I let people’s voices be heard, because I think context and the nuance and the dialogue is how we progress forward. So the second clip is actually from cam Newton’s podcast, I’ll link it in the show notes in the description. And he’s sitting down with your prototypical I G, boss be in every term in the word, Britney Renner, you guys know who she is very smart, very beautiful, was known and has been known as a elite for Nesser. She has had her fair share of high value men, you name it, she’s talked about that her book, and Cam Newton sat down with her. And he told her about his dating preferences. And I’ll let him speak for himself.
Cam Newton 6:36
I’m filtering my combo. But I’m also emphasizing like, how can you or what gives you the notion to rate the type of men that you come in contact with on a day to day, and what makes you respect them?
Brittney Renner 6:51
If I can be completely transparent, I feel like ever since I put up my book in 2018, there was definitely a decline in interest, like DM wise. And I think now, because I’ve been painted as such a villain and I leaned into that role. There are a lot of men that fear me, like, I’ll see that in my story views, you know what I mean? But it’s like, nobody’s really going out of their way to pursue me. I think it’s really different being a woman in that situation versus like my baby, Daddy, you know, women will flock to him and not think twice of it. But to me, because I use my mouth because I am on platforms because I tell the truth. A lot of men want to steer clear of that. So dating and like where it is now. There’s not a lot of people that are like, hey, I’m interested, by the way. And you would think like, Guys are horrid, at least they want to fuck, right? No, it’s like, it’s really Sahara Desert. And there’s like, my price to wake up to like a, you know, a bunch of good morning, Texas like now. It’s just me. And I feel like, at this point in my life, that’s what I need. Because I’ve always put men in love before me. And it’s like, now, I have no choice but to like, sit down and like, where am I going? Like, who is pretty right? Or like, what makes me happy? You know? So there’s not a lot of guys.
Cam Newton 8:14
Yeah. But can you blame them though? And let’s let’s keep it funky. Like I’m can do it. Right? And I ain’t gonna lie. I’m not about to hit no damn with no Brittany talking about Yo, what’s good, what’s poppin where you where you want to learn? I see you in Atlanta, boom, shot through. So why not? Because I don’t want to end up in your book. Because in a lot of ways, real real spill. I felt like you had to do what’s best for you. And you did, and you capitalize on it. But that was too that was to the discretion of somebody else. You know, I’m saying and whether you felt like that was what you needed to do to get on. I’m saying that from a from a person in my seat. It’s like damn, she pretty bad. Gorgeous. well represented but I gotta walk lightly. Because she ain’t just like no other Instagram model that’s out there. Because she really knows she could talk to talk. Right? And when she goes and talk to a Jackson State when she goes and talk to podcasts Hollywood unlock Shade Room. She ain’t genius. Oh, cam was cool. Oh, yeah. Did she give me details? Man Listen, man, I pop in so so so so manufacturing man look, yeah, he had the nerve to and you know, innocence. Well, I’m just like, bro, I just want to reach out to you just to have a good time. Yeah, you know, I’m saying I don’t feel like my time is being respected and protected. You know? I mean, because you do have that platform or your resume says differently.
Brittney Renner 9:58
Okay, so there’s a lot to impact but I’m gonna start with the first question is, did you read my book?
Cam Newton 10:05
SparkNotes? I heard about it.
Brittney Renner 10:10
Okay, so you spark noted my book.
Cam Newton 10:13
I know who you named?
Brittney Renner 10:15
You do because I didn’t name anyone in my book. No, I didn’t. I did not. Well, I didn’t name anyone because you know what’s so funny that you say that, because of where we are in media today? Can’t just just being in tune with what’s going on. I never had to name anyone I read super heads book in high school.. Loved it.
Montay Lee 10:34
That’s some further context on the mindset and the mentality of Cam Newton. Why do I bring this up? And why do I think this is relevant? I think this is relevant. Because there is an awakening. There is awareness starting to happen amongst men, where men are waking up, men are realizing their value. Men are realizing that their time is worth something. Their resources is worth something, their leadership, provisioning, and foundation is worth something. If they’re doing all the things they need to do to be put in the right headspace in the right status. There doing if you’re doing all the things you need to do as a man, you will automatically weed out people who don’t have your best interests in mind. And that doesn’t mean you have to demean those people. But it does mean that you are going to be looking for something else, you’re going to be looking for somebody who support you who is in a drag, you’re going to be looking for somebody who can follow your lead. cooking and cleaning is great. You need to not be ashamed to say these things. But understand that this is what you require to commit to somebody long term to have, potentially a marriage with somebody. I think that in the culture, too many men have been afraid to speak up afraid to speak their mind to be labeled as Oh, you, you. You want somebody to be, you know, a servant to you or you want somebody to be below you. And it’s not that at all. It’s just when you’re on your purpose, you’re on your grind. You understand what you actually want. I think that’s what cam is doing here. And it’s it’s stung a lot of people because I think a lot of women have been told through the media through other women that are in the industry, women like Cardi B like a mega stallion, even Beyonce in a way, where she was putting out songs talking about all the single ladies, all the single ladies. If you like it, then you better be all the same, all that stuff. And she was going home to her husband, you got to think about the actual media. Like what’s being programmed into you. Beyonce, has been with Jay Z for years, they’re in a great marriage from all account. And she was promoting and putting out songs talking about all the single ladies when she was going home to her husband. You got to think about it. I don’t think she had malice behind what she was doing when she was putting out those songs. But you got to think about the underlying message. Same thing with Cardi B. I don’t cook don’t clean all that type of stuff. But then offset had pictures, images of her video of her cleaning the house, the opposite of what she’s saying in the songs. Don’t listen to everything that people are trying to push down down to you that you need to be this strong, independent don’t need no man. Because it’s not going to help you in the long run. You’ve got to think about the outcome of what you actually want. As a female, do you want to be married? Do you want to have somebody commit to you, you’re gonna have to have some qualities that are worthy of committing to at least for a man that you value and respect. And that doesn’t include being a boss be for men of status. For the majority. There’s always exceptions to everything, but I’m just giving it to you
from the mental I’ll do that I have in the mentality that I’ve seen a lot of men who are doing big things, how they’re thinking and how they’re moving. I find it odd and strange that a man speaks his mind talks about what he wants, and what he values. And it gets struck down, where a lot of the time when it comes to conversely, with women, women talk about their purposes all the time, and nobody knocks them for it. You want a guy this tall, you want a guy that’s financially adept. You want a guy, you want a guy who’s a leader who’s confident, none of that gets knocked down. But if a man says he wants somebody that is supportive, somebody that can follow his lead, somebody that can cook and clean, and not be a headache, it gets met with? Well, he’s degrading women, or something of that nature. No, let’s have the conversation Do you have? Let me phrase it like this? Do you have a problem or an issue with what Cam Newton state said? Or what I had to say in this episode? If so, drop it in comments below. Or if you agree with Cam Newton, if you agree with this mentality of you should be seeking out somebody to be with you. That’s going to add value to your life support you and not be a headache. It’s really simple. I mean, we are simple as men for the most part with what we’re requiring. It’s not much. I think, I think that’s enough there. I don’t want to ramble on too much. But I just thought that this was an interesting conversation and I wanted to provide further context of the situation because it’s not like the mentality that Cam Newton has is one that only he has a lot of minutes to think this way. And also, he said pretty much the same thing to Brittany Renner on his podcast. It’s not like he’s saying this behind women’s back he said it right to her face that I can’t be with you because of pretty much the boss be stuff you know, I’m you talking about past exploits, all the exposure you got on Instagram, all that is tied into, you’re pretty much setting yourself up to not be taken seriously for a long term relationship. When it comes to a man of value like Cam Newton, I think that’s a good place to ended. If you’re listening to the audio version of the podcast, thank you. Give me a rating and review five star five star five star as that really helps out to get the podcast found. Also, if you’re watching on YouTube, Like the video, subscribe to the channel. If you enjoy this content and you want more like this. I really appreciate you and until next time, peace